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About Message With A Bottle

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About Message With A Bottle

The short version: Message With A Bottle is a website dedicated to parenting advice and information for solo dads, single fathers, new parents and more.

The long version: Alright, you asked for it.

After the birth of my first child, I quit my job to be a stay-at-home dad or SAHD for short, though I never use that acronym because it looks and sounds too much like the word sad.

Daycare is obscenely expensive. It made more fiscal sense to stay home with my kid child than to collect a paycheck, only to hand it over to a daycare facility to watch my young son.

Still home on maternity leave, my ex-wife left me alone with my newborn son for the first time. She reminded me, again and again, of all the duties I was to perform while she was gone. I better write this down, I joked, and grabbed some post-it notes and a black Sharpie.

As a joke (because Ive never taken anything in life seriously), I wrote down even the simplest of tasks and pinned it to my bulletin board. I forgot all about the note. I also forgot to change the baby.

On that day, the Message With a Bottle Tumblr was born.

The notes immediately struck a nerve with readers. I received emails, Facebook messages, Tumblr comments and tweets from men and women, parents of young children, grown children, parents, stay-at-home

In January 2014, an editor at a website dedicated to the happenings in Claremore, Oklahoma did a short post about my website. The article went viral strictly on social media sharing.

A few hours, and six million views later, my name, face and half-assed approach to parenting was the lead story on The Huffington Post, The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Daily Mail, The Blaze, and countless other websites and media outlets. Television stations from across the United States emailed for interviews. Australian morning shows called to book me as a guest.


The outpouring for A Message With A Bottle was incredibly positive, humbling and borderline absurd.

The notes werefeatured on Mommyish, ABC News, Woman’s Day, Good Housekeeping, Country Living, Cosmo, Refinery29, 22 Words, Working Mother, Redbook, How To Be A Dad,and Good Morning America. I’m incredibly humbled by the outpouring for my silly little musings and nervous I’ll never be funny again.

So What’s Going On Now??

A great deal has happened since those early days of note-taking.

On the personal side, I’m a single dad now.The marriage ended in 2017.

On the career front, I have a 2019 desk calendar coming out that you should go buy IMMEDIATELY!

And that’s my story. Aren’t you sorry you asked?Wait,you didn’t ask? Oops!

Here’s more about me you probably didn’t know.

If you’d like to learn more orhave something you want to show me,send me,sell me,steal from me, add something to my shop or want to advertise on the Message with a Bottle website, email me at messagewithabottle [@] gmail [dot] com.

If you want to read my writing that isn’t about my kids, check out my official website.

My Thoughts On Being A Parent Now:


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Chris Illuminati is a freelance writer and published author. Follow him on Twitter (@chrisilluminati), Instagram (@messagewithabottle) or email him at cilluminati@gmail.com.

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